So you’re moving in together?! What a terrifying but thrilling time. It might seem like it won’t be any different than how it is now, but trust me, you will experience shit you’ve never experienced before. There are tons of different reasons why you might be taking the next step but here are a few of the things you are about to experience!
We All Poop
Now I don’t know where you are in terms of your relationship but, just deal with the fact that you can’t hide your poop any longer. You might as well get used to it now because, unless you wake up in the middle of the night and make a stealth move to the bathroom, your partner is going to know you poop. If you’re scared that they are going to make fun of you, then honestly don’t be with them. No one needs shade in their life because they poop. Just embrace it, and give them a warning if they try and use the washroom after you left a bomb.
Living together means there is going to be double the mess. I would strongly suggest having an idea of who is going to do what cleaning, that way you aren’t frustrated when you’re stuck doing it all and your partner isn’t helping. Are you or your partner more of a neat freak? Dividing up the chores equally is a good way to start off, and setting a schedule will keep everyone happy (or maybe that’s just the Virgo in me).
There is Nowhere To Go
When you get into an argument, you can’t just ask them to leave or storm out. You are both in this together. Of course, you can leave, but you have to return at some point. Learning how to communicate efficiently might seem like a silly thing to suggest, but trust me, when you live together it is key! There is nothing worse than awkward silence when you are trying to just live. If there is an issue bring it up, if your partner needs some space, do something in another room. It is important to talk about any problems rather than just build them up and eventually explode one day. Make sure you are on good terms with communication before you move in together!
Be Considerate Of Your Partner
Is your partner a night owl and your an early riser? Don’t wake up first thing in the morning and unload the dishwasher, or play your music loudly! Be considerate of your sleeping partner! This is the case for anything really. Are they studying? Don’t invite friends over! The best way to merge both of your busy schedules would be to have a communal calendar! Write all the important dates/events on it, that way you are both aware of stuff going on. If you have a test coming up, ask your partner to maybe lay low for a bit. My best recommendation, HEADPHONES! We always had headphones that would connect to our TV, that way my partner could still enjoy a show in the living room if I was studying or needed some quiet time. Trust me there are ways to make things work!
Having Your Own Space
I think it’s really important for everyone to have their own space where they can go and just have some personal time. This isn’t always possible, but even if it’s just a cozy corner in your living room, make it your own. I never really had my own space with my previous partner, we shared everything but I think it would have been really nice to just have a spot where I can just be alone when I need it. For me, this was essential because I am an extreme introvert and sometimes I just want to sit somewhere and not talk to anyone (my happy Friday night ritual!) If you can’t find a space in your apartment, head out to a cafe or book store on your own for some me-time.
Don’t get me wrong, living with your partner is a ton of fun! It allows for fun movie nights, blanket forts in the living room, and pie for dinner. Don’t forget that some adulting is involved, but I’m sure you will figure it out!
Moral Of The Story: Your poop stinks, might as well let your partner know now!