I had a lovely interaction this past weekend that completely infuriated me, and also made me think about rejection as a whole. I think everyone considers rejection to only refer to a relationship, or someone wanting to have sex with you, but it can be that someone doesn’t want to be your friend, you didn’t get the job, or even that your puppy doesn’t want to sleep on the bed with you anymore. Being the good little blogger that I am, I will write my frustrations out for you all to enjoy, and hopefully educate a few people.
The interaction went a little something like this;
I recently connected with a long lost friend, we had been chatting and reminiscing over the fun times we had in the past. After a few days of communication (no flirting, just friendly talking) he asked if I would like to go out for a drink sometime. I was flattered, but didn’t want to give out any misleading signals, so I politely declined. I thanked him for the offer, told him that I would love to go out as friends, but that I wasn’t currently interested in anything more. I felt the need to be upfront about this right off the bat, as I’ve heard the horror stories of people going on dates that they didn’t realize were actually dates. I was then met with this response:
WHAT THE FUCK… WHO THE FUCK IN THEIR RIGHT MIND THINKS THIS IS OK?! Like… WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK! (My thoughts exactly)
I can understand that being rejected is a pretty crappy thing, I get that, I’ve been rejected more times than I have fingers. It sucks, but that is no excuse to treat someone poorly, and/or bash their hobbies. There could be a million reasons why someone rejects your invitation, but you have to respect that persons decision. We’re all human, we all have feelings, your feelings aren’t any more important than mine, just because you’re a “man” doesn’t mean that every woman wants to have sex with you, or even more basic, just because you’re “qualified” doesn’t mean that people will want you as an employee. That’s just how life goes, sure it’s not “fair” but you can’t have everything you want. The fun part of life is the challenge, and accomplishments, and pride you feel when you get something you deserve. Wouldn’t you be happier that the person was upfront about their feelings before you spent all night, and your hard earned money on them, just to find out they weren’t interested right from the get-go? I thought I was doing my due diligence by letting him know that he wasn’t going to get in my pants, no matter how many appetizers he let me order.
Now, this isn’t typically the reaction that most guys will give, hell, even most people. They usually respond with a “no problem, maybe some other time”. But there are a few out there that you will come across, and I want you to know that when you encounter them, just give them a big FUCK YOU, tell them how NOT ok that is, and then continue on with your life. Some people think that since they didn’t get their way, and someone wasn’t interested, they should be a little bitch, and insult them in order to make their tiny penis egos a little bigger, and make it seem like it was their idea to begin with. The only positive is that if you were on the fence whether or not you should give someone the time of day, this is a pretty good indication that you’re much better off without them.
Someone asked me if I would ever forgive them for saying those hurtful things and my response was “Why would I ever forgive someone for treating a girl (nevertheless any human being) like shit because she didn’t want to go out for dinner with you. Why would I want to be friends with someone who thinks that is an ok thing to do.”
Moral of the story: Rejection sucks but don’t be a dick about it, learn how to use you’re and your, spell friends correctly, don’t forget commas, and ALWAYS blog about it.
**Side note: This post was written after the event occurred. I felt the need to still post this as it is an issue I am very passionate about but I do apologize for the abruptness of this post.