For those of you who don’t know, a double date, as you might be able to guess, is when 2 couples go out on a date together. Double dates are honestly the easiest way to get back into dating. You get to hang out with your friends and you are in a totally non-pressure situation. This past weekend I went on my first ever double date. That’s right ladies and gentlemen, I am 25 years old and I finally went on a double date.
March marked 6 months since my break up and I thought I would do something outside of my comfort zone. My comfort zone is about the size of a quarter, so you can imagine this was a huge step for me.
Thank god I didn’t actually have to go on a date with a group of strangers, I was actually just with friends and meeting a friends new bae. Since it was my first experience, I feel as if I am now an expert, and need to share the reality of a double date when you are meeting new people.
1. You will likely forget the name of the other person
This is pretty common, when you meet someone for the first time you need to hear their name at least twice before it starts to stick. Expert tip! Find a clever way to have their name brought up, or ask your friends before hand so you can just reference the text message at any time when you forget. There is nothing more embarrassing than calling the person the wrong name. Even better! Bring a handy “my name is:” sticker, and insist it’s a weird kink you have.
2. There will be a lot of awkward small talk
You are meeting someone new, who you likely don’t know much about so there will be the typical questions where you try to get to know each other. It helps to try and find things that you all relate to so you don’t have any awkward silence. It helps if you do an activity where you can all bond together and talk about the activity so you don’t have to keep trying to make conversation, and the conversation is more likely to flow naturally. If someone asks you if you have any hobbies, say something, ANYTHING! When your answers are one word answers it makes it really difficult to carry a conversation.
3. Your night will not end in a 4 sum
This one was a shock to me and my purse full of condoms and lube. Is it just me or do you feel like your picture of a double date is when you all some how end up at home together in the middle of an orgy? Not even at the beginning of the orgy, you’re home and it’s already ongoing.
At the end of the day, a double date is honestly just a fancy term for hanging out with friends and their significant others. You get to meet new people and have a fun night out. After a slightly awkward first double date I would encourage everyone to do something like this, as a socially inept individual this is actually something that I quite enjoyed and now want to do more often (my friends do not..maybe it didn’t go as well as I imagined).
Moral of the story: 4 sums happen sometimes.. just not on EVERY double date. And if they do, at least call everyone by the right name.